A list of self-care ideas is delivered through ASMR quotes and captions. I’ve been working on some of them. I promise it’s worth it. Feel free to share on Instagram and other social media channels!
Remember that we are all somehow interconnected and without you, the world wouldn’t be the same and your presence is important and it does make a difference in everyone else’s life directly or indirectly. you’re like magic. there are so many people in the future you don’t know yet that will be so happy to have you in their life and they will love you so much so please never give up!! the world needs you. nothing would ever be the same without you
Don’t chase people. Be an example. Attract them. Work hard and be yourself. The people who belong in your life will come to find you and stay. Just do your thing
Focus on the journey, not on the destination
You will find ur Person. sometimes it may confuse u bc they’re not shiny like a movie the way u imagined, but you’ll know by the calm they bring
This is just a reminder that you’re allowed to be sad. Even if you’re not supposed to be. Even if the sun is shining and the birds are singing, even if you’re just standing in your bathroom brushing your teeth. You’re allowed to feel sad when you’re blowing out the birthday candles, or when you’re holding your little sister on your lap. You don’t owe anyone an explanation. You’re allowed to be sad.
Go ahead and be there for people. Offer a listening ear when they manage to heave the words they’ve been trying to say out of their throat. Be that shoulder to cry on when the dam breaks and their tears flood down their face. But remember, you are human. Not hospital, not clinic, human. And even they need to be maintained, so it’s only natural that you do too. Don’t forget yourself.
— Maxwell Diawuoh, Once A Day (321/366)
“It’s all about falling in love with yourself and sharing that love with someone who appreciates you, rather than looking for love to compensate for a self love deficit.”
— Eartha Kitt
“People are just as wonderful as sunsets if you let them be. When I look at a sunset, I don’t find myself saying, “Soften the orange a bit on the right hand corner.” I don’t try to control a sunset. I watch with awe as it unfolds.”
— Carl Rogers
“If you obsess over whether you are making the right decision, you are basically assuming that the universe will reward you for one thing and punish you for another. The Universe has no fixed agenda. Once you make any decision, it works around that decision. There is not right or wrong.”
— Deepak Chopra
“Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won’t either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are here to be swallowed up. And when it happens that you are broken, or betrayed, or left, or hurt, or death brushes near, let yourself sit by an apple tree and listen to the apples falling all around you in heaps, wasting their sweetness. Tell yourself you tasted as many as you could.”
— Louise Erdrich
The problem with depression is that everything in our day-to-day lives becomes difficult to accomplish and people tell those suffering to “Get over it.” So then it becomes paradoxical. Because it’s a lot more difficult than just “getting over it” but at the same time, it’s what we must tell ourselves to overcome it.
Be the set of ears that is always willing to listen. One cry of help hidden amidst the rest of the world’s noises deserves just as much to be heard as anyone else. Be that one to pause, focus on, and open your heart towards those that are not being heard.
— Nicole Addison
Not all toxic people are cruel and uncaring. Some of them love us dearly. Many of them have good intentions. Most are toxic to our being simply because their needs and way of existing in the world force us to compromise ourselves and our happiness. They aren’t inherently bad people, but they aren’t the right people for us. And as hard as it is, we have to let them go. Life is hard enough without being around people who bring you down, and as much as you care, you can’t destroy yourself for the sake of someone else. You have to make your well-being a priority. Whether that means breaking up with someone you care about, loving a family member from a distance, letting go of a friend, or removing yourself from a situation that feels painful — you have every right to leave and create a safer space for yourself.
— Daniell Koepke
When is it time to call it quits? – When you discern a different path to take that better suits you, which facilitates the growth, healing, and awakening you need. – Quitting is like death; it is half of a change. Make that change work for you and you can give yourself to that little death.
Namaste 🙂 – lazyyogi
- How to Care Less about what Other People Think
- Know what matters to you, personally – what you stand for, and what your values are .
- Don’t be anxious about breaking social norms. The more often you do this, and go against the flow, the less it will bother you to simply be yourself.
- Decide not to live as a people pleaser, or to get upset and take rejection personally.
- Hang out with people who are self-confident, who know what they believe in, and what they want from life. You’ll find their self-confidence will rub off on you, too, and you’ll start to worry less about what other people think.
- Working on becoming more competent in the skills and areas that matter to you. That will naturally enhance your self confidence, and develop a self image that is strong and positive.
- Travel, or spend time with lots of different people. That will show you how diverse attitudes and outlooks are. That is, there’s no one way of being – so find, and be, yourself.
- Important Life Lessons
- You only have this moment so live in the “now”.
- Life is over quickly so fight for what matters – your values and beliefs … hopes and dreams … and those you love.
- If you make the sacrifice, you will reap the benefits.
- Procrastination keeps you tied to yesterday. What you do today will determine your tomorrow.
- See failure as a lesson, and a bridge to success. We all fail at times – it’s the way we grow and learn.
- The most important relationship you have in this life is the relationship that you have with yourself. So value, affirm and believe in yourself.
- What we do – not what we say – reveals our true character.
- Remember to be kind for everyone is fighting a hard battle.
- How do I stop projecting my anxiety onto others and blaming them for it? Contemplate a few things: Namaste! – lazyyogi
- Where is your anxiety experienced?
- In your own brain and body.
- It is not beamed into you by an external force.
- People react differently to different stimuli.
- What causes anxiety in you may not cause anxiety in others.
- Again, this highlights that your anxiety is your own.
- If you blame others for your anxiety, you will not be free from it.
- You will simply resent other people and try to change them.
- Trying to change the world around us to make us feel more comfortable in our insecurities is like trying to cover the earth in leather to avoid the pain of walking on sticks and stones.
- It is much easier to simply wear shoes.
- If you take responsibility for your anxiety, then you can do something about it.
- When you acknowledge that the anxiety is coming from within you and is somehow tied into your wiring, you can then set about the task of rewiring and realigning yourself such that you are free from it.
- Anxiety is nothing to be ashamed of–it is a common struggle. Own it and work toward being free from it.
- Many people are prescribed anti-anxiety medication and perhaps that helps them. Maybe there are side effects, maybe it’s expensive. I don’t know. What I do know is that meditation and mindfulness have been found to be as effective, they are free, and you can start practicing them today.
- The difficulty with general anxiety is that it arises because our perception, our sense of self, and our sense of the world are out of balance. Those things are intertwined in nuanced ways. How we perceive past and future, how we seek happiness and peace, and who we think we are, all these things come into play to make anxiety possible.
- While daily meditation and mindfulness will help you to begin unraveling all of that, the book The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle will help you to understand the circumstances you have unconsciously set up for yourself that make anxiety possible.
- Read, meditate, and practice, and you will find your own way to being free.
Not everything is supposed to become something beautiful and long-lasting. Sometimes people come into your life to show you what is right and what is wrong, to show you who you can be, to teach you to love yourself, to make you feel better for a little while, or to just be someone to walk with at night and spill your life to. Not everyone is going to stay forever, and we still have to keep on going and thank them for what they’ve given us.
— Emery Allen
The actual feeling of being beautiful is the feeling that nothing is out of place with regard to yourself at this moment. You feel whole, radiant, and accepted. If this feeling is tied to the body, then you are setting yourself up to suffer at some point in time. When you start to suspect that you are not your body, what meaning does beauty have? Your beauty is too infinite for the body or mind to reflect. The beauty that surpasses the body, the peace that surpasses the mind, both are that eternal Self that knows the mind-body yet cannot be known by the mind-body. You are that Self and never were you that mind-body appearance.
The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, circumstances, than failure, successes, and what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill. It will make or break a company… a church… a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you… we are in charge of our Attitudes.
— Charles R. Swindoll
- Perhaps the greatest faculty our minds possess is the ability to cope with pain. Classic thinking teaches us the four doors of the mind, which everyone moves through according to their need. — Patrick Rothfuss, The Name of the Wind
- First is the door of sleep. Sleep offers us a retreat from the world and all its pain. Sleep marks passing time, giving us distance from the things that have hurt us. When a person is wounded they will often fall unconscious. Similarly, someone who hears traumatic news will often swoon or faint. This is the mind’s way of protecting itself from pain by stepping through the first door.
- The second is the door to forgetting. Some wounds are too deep to heal, or too deep to heal quickly. In addition, many memories are simply painful, and there is no healing to be done. The saying ‘time heals all wounds’ is false. Time heals most wounds. The rest are hidden behind this door.
- The third is the door of madness. There are times when the mind is dealt such a blow it hides in insanity. While this may not seem beneficial, it is. There are times when the reality is nothing but pain, and to escape that pain the mind must leave reality behind.
- Last is the door of death. The final resort. Nothing can hurt us after we are dead, or so we have been told.
My life is not possible to tell. I change every day, change my patterns, my concepts, my interpretations. I am a series of moods and sensations. I play a thousand roles. I weep when I find others playing them for me. My real self is unknown. My work is merely an essence of this vast and deep adventure.
— Anaïs Nin
Live amongst people in such a manner that if you die they weep over you and if you are alive they crave your company. ”
— Ali Ibn Abi Talib
Everybody has the capacity for a happy life. All these talks about how difficult times we live in, that’s just a clever way to justify fear and laziness.
— Lev Landau
I can believe things that are true and things that aren’t true and I can believe things where nobody knows if they’re true or not.
I can believe in Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny and the Beatles and Marilyn Monroe and Elvis and Mister Ed. Listen – I believe that people are perfectable, that knowledge is infinite, that the world is run by secret banking cartels and is visited by aliens on a regular basis, nice ones that look like wrinkled lemurs and bad ones who mutilate cattle and want our water and our women.
I believe that the future sucks and I believe that the future rocks and I believe that one day White Buffalo Woman is going to come back and kick everyone’s ass. I believe that all men are just overgrown boys with deep problems communicating and that the decline in good sex in America is coincident with the decline in drive-in movie theaters from state to state.
I believe that all politicians are unprincipled crooks and I still believe that they are better than the alternative. I believe that California is going to sink into the sea when the big one comes, while Florida is going to dissolve into madness and alligators and toxic waste.
I believe that antibacterial soap is destroying our resistance to dirt and disease so that one day we’ll all be wiped out by the common cold like martians in War of the Worlds.
I believe that the greatest poets of the last century were Edith Sitwell and Don Marquis, that jade is dried dragon sperm, and that thousands of years ago in a former life I was a one-armed Siberian shaman.
I believe that mankind’s destiny lies in the stars. I believe that candy really did taste better when I was a kid, that it’s aerodynamically impossible for a bumble bee to fly, that light is a wave and a particle, that there’s a cat in a box somewhere who’s alive and dead at the same time (although if they don’t ever open the box to feed it it’ll eventually just be two different kinds of dead), and that there are stars in the universe billions of years older than the universe itself.
I believe in a personal god who cares about me and worries and oversees everything I do. I believe in an impersonal god who set the universe in motion and went off to hang with her girlfriends and doesn’t even know that I’m alive. I believe in an empty and godless universe of causal chaos, background noise, and sheer blind luck.
I believe that anyone who says sex is overrated just hasn’t done it properly. I believe that anyone who claims to know what’s going on will lie about the little things too
I believe in absolute honesty and sensible social lies. I believe in a woman’s right to choose, a baby’s right to live, that while all human life is sacred there’s nothing wrong with the death penalty if you can trust the legal system implicitly, and that no one but a moron would ever trust the legal system.
I believe that life is a game, that life is a cruel joke, and that life is what happens when you’re alive and that you might as well lie back and enjoy it.
— Neil Gaiman, American Gods
Life has taught me that you can’t control someone’s loyalty. No matter how good you are to them, doesn’t mean they’ll treat you the same. No matter how much they mean to you, doesn’t mean they’ll value you the same. Sometimes the people you love the most, turn out to be the people you can trust the least.
— Trent Shelton
If you are willing to look at another person’s behavior toward you as a reflection of the state of their relationship with themselves rather than a statement about your value as a person, then you will, over a period of time cease to react at all.
— Yogi Bhajan
In school we learn that mistakes are bad, and we are punished for making them. Yet, if you look at the way humans are designed to learn, we learn by making mistakes. We learn to walk by falling down. If we never fell down, we would never walk.
— Robert Kiyosaki, Rich Dad, Poor Dad
If you know someone who’s depressed, please resolve never to ask them why. Depression isn’t a straightforward response to a bad situation; depression just is, like the weather.
Try to understand the blackness, lethargy, hopelessness, and loneliness they’re going through. Be there for them when they come through the other side. It’s hard to be a friend to someone who’s depressed, but it is one of the kindest, noblest, and best things you will ever do.
— Stephen Fry
When you can tell your story and it doesn’t make you cry, that’s when you know you’ve healed.
If you really believe in what you’re doing, work hard, take nothing personally and if something blocks one route, find another. Never give up.
Dont stay in a toxic relationship or a toxic friendship just because you don’t want to be lonely.
friendly advice to not revolve your life around one person, one feeling, one place, one memory, one problem. the complexity of life and the diversity of the world is beautiful and you have the right to explore it. do not settle for less. you deserve better.
prompt 870 – Dante wrote about nine circles of hell. How many circles does your version of hell have? Describe them.
prompt 855 – Complete the sentence “I really wish I hadn’t …” in a creative way, then write a piece about it. It doesn’t have to be true. In fact, the more untrue it is, the better.
prompt 847 – She divided her life into two parts, before and after the accident.
prompt 827 – You must be so disappointed. I know how much you wanted me to fail.
When a thing has served its purpose, it will go away. If you try to hold on to something that has already fulfilled its purpose in your life, you are going to hurt yourself. If holding on is disturbing your peace of mind, it makes sense to let go. Surrender all attachments to people and things that you have been struggling to hold on to.
– Iyanla Vanzant
“It’s a terrible thing, I think, in life to wait until you are ready. I have this feeling that actually no one is ever ready to do anything. There is almost no such thing as ready. There is only now.”
– Hugh Laurie
Of course, you never really forget anyone, but you certainly release them. You stop allowing their history to have any meaning for you today. You let them change their haircut, let them move, let them fall in love again. And when you see this person you have let go, you realize that there is no reason to be sad. The person you knew exists somewhere, but you are separated by too much time to reach them again.
– Chelsea Fagan, How We Let People Go
Don’t become a well-rounded person. Well-rounded people are smooth and dull. Become a thoroughly spiky person. Grow spikes from every angle. Stick in their throats like a pufferfish. If you want to woo the muse of the odd, don’t read Shakespeare. Read Webster’s revenge plays. Don’t read Homer and Aristotle. Read Herodotus where he’s off talking about Egyptian women having public sex with goats. If you want to read about myth don’t read Joseph Campbell, read about convulsive religion, read about voodoo and the Millerites and the Munster Anabaptists. There are hundreds of years of extremities, there are vast legacies of mutants. There have always been geeks. There will always be geeks. Become the apotheosis of the geek. Learn who your spiritual ancestors were. You didn’t come here from anywhere. There are reasons why you’re here. Learn those reasons. Learn about the stuff that was buried because it was too experimental or embarrassing or inexplicable.
– The Wonderful Power of Storytelling: Bruce Sterling. Every year or two I feel like I need to re-post this reminder.
make a radical change in your lifestyle and begin to boldly do things which you may previously never have thought of doing, or been too hesitant to attempt. So many people live within unhappy circumstances and yet will not take the initiative to change their situation because they are conditioned to a life of security, conformity, and conservation, all of which may appear to give one peace of mind, but in reality nothing is more damaging to the adventurous spirit within a man than a secure future. The very basic core of a man’s living spirit is his passion for adventure. The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun. If you want to get more out of life, you must lose your inclination for monotonous security and adopt a helter-skelter style of life that will at first appear to you to be crazy. But once you become accustomed to such a life you will see its full meaning and its incredible beauty.
– Jon Krakauer, Into the Wild
Be patient with others. You took years or decades to change your wrong ways but you become impatient with them in seconds or minutes.
– Mufti Ismail Menk
Millions of people never analyze themselves. Mentally they are mechanical products of the factory of their environment, preoccupied with breakfast, lunch, and dinner, working and sleeping, and going here and there to be entertained. They don’t know what or why they are seeking, nor why they never realize complete happiness and lasting satisfaction. By evading self-analysis, people go on being robots, conditioned by their environment. True self-analysis is the greatest art of progress.
– (via purplebuddhaproject)
You can achieve your dreams by just believing that you can. You do not need to necessarily need to know the process and the steps to get there, but if you believe and if you put in your time, effort and love into it, everything else will fall into place. Believe in yourself and your dreams.
– What I’ve learnt by achieving my small dream
Someone once told me that human beings have three dimensions: how you see yourself, how others see you, and how you want others to see you. The closer the distance between the three dimensions, the more at peace you are and the more stable you become.
– Marwa Rakha, The Poison Tree
I have no memory for things I have learned, nor things I have read, nor things experienced or heard, neither for people nor events; I feel that I have experienced nothing, learned nothing, that I actually know less than the average schoolboy, and that what I do know is superficial, and that every second question is beyond me. I am incapable of thinking deliberately; my thoughts run into a wall. I can grasp the essence of things in isolation, but I am quite incapable of coherent, unbroken thinking. I can’t even tell a story properly; in fact, I can scarcely talk…
– Franz Kafka
In general, people are not drawn to perfection in others. People are drawn to shared interests, shared problems, and an individual’s life energy.
Humans connect with humans. Hiding one’s humanity and trying to project an image of perfection makes a person vague, slippery, lifeless, and uninteresting.
– Robert Glover, No More Mr. Nice Guy
Being raised in an unstable household makes you understand that the world doesn’t exist to accommodate you, which… is something a lot of people struggle to understand well into their adulthood. It makes you realize how quickly a situation can shift, and how danger really is everywhere. But crises when they occur, do not catch you off guard; you have never believed you lived under a shelter of some essential benevolence. And an unstable childhood makes you appreciate calmness and not crave excitement.
– Curtis Sittenfeld
Cities are smells: Acre is the smell of iodine and spices. Haifa is the smell of pine and wrinkled sheets. Moscow is the smell of vodka on ice. Cairo is the smell of mango and ginger. Beirut is the smell of the sun, sea, smoke, and lemons. Paris is the smell of fresh bread, cheese, and derivations of enchantment. Damascus is the smell of jasmine and dried fruit. Tunis is the smell of night musk and salt. Rabat is the smell of henna, incense and honey. A city that cannot be known by its smell is unreliable. Exiles have a shared smell: the smell of longing for something else; a smell that remembers another smell. A painting, nostalgic that guides you, like a worn tourist map, to the smell of the original place. A smell is a memory and a setting sun. Sunset, here, is beauty rebuking the stranger.
But to love the sunset is not, as they say, one of the attributes of exile.
– Mahmoud Darwish, In the Presence of Absence
Nobody wants to do it – not real change, not soul change, not the painful molecular change required to truly become who you need to be. Nobody ever does real transformation for fun. Nobody ever does it on a dare. You do it only when your back is so far against the wall that you have no choice anymore.
– Elizabeth Gilbert
You don’t ever have to feel guilty about removing toxic people from your life. It doesn’t matter whether someone is a relative, romantic interest, employer, childhood friend, or a new acquaintance — you don’t have to make room for people who cause you pain or make you feel small. It’s one thing if a person owns up to their behavior and makes an effort to change. But if a person disregards your feelings, ignores your boundaries, and continues to treat you in a harmful way, they need to go.
– Daniell Koepke
In fact a mature person does not fall in love, he rises in love. The word ’fall’ is not right. Only immature people fall; they stumble and fall down in love. Somehow they were managing and standing. They cannot manage and they cannot stand – they find a woman and they are gone, they find a man and they are gone. They were always ready to fall on the ground and to creep. They don’t have the backbone, the spine; they don’t have that integrity to stand alone.
A mature person has the integrity to be alone. And when a mature person gives love, he gives without any strings attached to it: he simply gives. And when a mature person gives love, he feels grateful that you have accepted his love, not vice versa. He does not expect you to be thankful for it – no, not at all, he does not even need your thanks. He thanks you for accepting his love. And when two mature persons are in love, one of the greatest paradoxes of life happens, one of the most beautiful phenomena: they are together and yet tremendously alone; they are together so much so that they are almost one. But their oneness does not destroy their individuality, in fact, it enhances it: they become more individual.
Two mature persons in love help each other to become more free. There is no politics involved, no diplomacy, no effort to dominate. How can you dominate the person you love? Just think over it. Domination is a sort of hatred, anger, enmity. How can you think of dominating a person you love? You would love to see the person totally free, independent; you will give him more individuality. That’s why I call it the greatest paradox: they are together so much so that they are almost one, but still in that oneness they are individuals. Their individualities are not effaced – they have become more enhanced. The other has enriched them as far as their freedom is concerned.
Immature people falling in love destroy each other’s freedom, create a bondage, make a prison. Mature persons in love help each other to be free; they help each other to destroy all sorts of bondages. And when love flows with freedom there is beauty. When love flows with dependence there is ugliness.
I realize that if I were stable, prudent and static; I’d live in death. Therefore I accept confusion, uncertainty, fear and emotional ups and downs, because that’s the price I’m willing to pay for a fluid, perplexed and exciting life.
– Carl Rogers
One, remember to look up at the stars and not down at your feet. Two, never give up work. Work gives you meaning and purpose and life is empty without it. Three, if you are lucky enough to find love, remember it is there and don’t throw it away.
– Stephen Hawking, A Brief History of Time
Protection: As someone who has been living with severe suicidal ideation my entire life I wanna tell you all something, you don’t have to stay alive for yourself. People will say it’s a bad idea to live for external things because they’re temporary, and it’s true living for yourself is ideal but if you’re not to that point yet that’s ok too.
I’ve lived for my dog for the past 4 years, before that I lived for my snakes, before that I lived for my cat. You can live for whatever needs you and whatever matters to you. Live for your best friend, live for your plants, live for your pets, live for your animal crossing town. Live for whatever keeps you alive and the day will come when you can live for yourself.
No one gets there overnight and no one is so lucky to create masterpieces on their first try. A lot of times people of our generation want things to come so quick and easy because everything is so instantaneous now. So all I can really say is make work, do what you love, and don’t let anything deter you from it.
— Kelsey King
Watching you walk out of my life does not make me bitter or cynical about love. But rather makes me realize that if I wanted so much to be with the wrong person how beautiful it will be when the right one comes along.
I wish I could say that the wolves don’t chase me anymore. I wish I could tell you that I became the sun like I always wanted. I’m not sure the sky even has room for me anymore.
— Allison Morgan, “Is This The Way Out?”